Chronic Pain is Exhausting

I have now lived with chronic pain for just about 3 years. Prior to that, I had a serious sports injury that saw me in initial pain but then a long 10 month recovery period. Looking back, I can say that the initial injury was the start of the time that I had to start adjusting my perspective on my abilities. This is an ongoing journey and something that is not “going gentle into that good night.” In many ways I’m only now coming around to the fact that I seem to have permanent physical limitations. That is really, really…

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It’s better when you doubt yourself!

One of my personal pet peeves are all of those meme’s that you see on social media that tell you to “look within yourself” or “only you can know what is best for you.” Things along those lies lines. Here is why I believe that you cannot look within yourself (aka your mind) to find the truth. Many years ago my dear grandmother passed away. At the time my son was 8 years old and he struggled in a really big way with his grief. He is, and was, a very physical child and emotion is a very physical emotion that…

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You Can’t Complete Me

I was in University, it was the year before my friend and I decided to start dating when the movie Jerry Maguire came out with this iconic line. I remember thinking, at the time, how I wanted to be able to say that phrase myself. It took many more years for me to learn how empty and destroying that phrase was to my marriage and myself. Creating a healthier approach took even longer. When I got married I really did think that my fiancée did complete me. He was one of the first persons to whom I could speak without…

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