#adulting

My daughter as she helps prepare large batches of soup for an event we volunteer at monthly.

As a parent of two older teens, I’ve had fun with the current #adulting trend. A little self-deprecating humour goes a long way in helping myself #rightsize my opinions of myself as well as my perception of self-importance and irreplace-ibility.

This morning, after a very long and full work week with 4 am mornings and 11 pm evenings and being “on-the-clock” almost the whole time, I really wanted to sleep in. However, having been out of the office and away from home for the majority of the week, with a significant event tomorrow requiring extensive preparation today along with a visit to a Life Celebration this early evening, my brain woke up north of 6 am and demanded my attention.

At around 8:30 am, when I forced myself to get dressed, I realized that I had just provided a perfect example of #adulting.

#adulting is when you do, despite everything in you wanting the opposite.

1 Corinthians 13:11 has the often quoted verse:

When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.”

It is really worth it for you to go read the whole section because too often this verse falls to out-of-context use.

I mention this because, in searching up this passage this morning, I was surprised to realize that this verse is part of the famous love chapter of the Bible. I’ve read that chaper often, and I probably have realized this before but it sunk in again and led me to one more realization about #adulting.

While the trend to use the #adulting shows a generation telling us that they are finding themselves unprepared to be an adult (psst, I still think that and I’m going to be 41 this year) and that being an adult is hard (agreed!), there is another theme that is getting confused with #adulting.

And that theme is #marketing.

#adulting is choosing to do, act, behave in a way that can – at least initially – go against your desires, short-term goals, and appear to be frustrating.

#adulting is not buying a car, buying a house, dressing up/down, having the gadgets, owning the things, taking the trips, or even being acknowledged as an amazing philanthropist, generous volunteer, and solid friend.

That is #marketing. And it is something that I frequently fall victim to myself.

stuff = success = adult = admiration

The catch is that #adulting does involve actions that will lead to success, to things, and to appreciation for your actions (self-less or selfish).

There reality is, my friends, that true #adulting doesn’t promise those things. True #adulting is hard work, you don’t get points for style, you aren’t promised friends, you aren’t promised stuff, but, it is worth it.

I’ve been at it for a few years now. Long enough to have some #adulting teens of my own. And I can tell you, it is worth it.

Those were my Saturday morning ramblings as I got dressed this morning. I hope they’ll provide you with a few thoughts to enjoy. I’ve been lucky enough to have been given a nice toast and bacon sandwich and coffee by my son while I type this up and now I need to plan the menu and shop for the ingredients for tomorrow’s Soup Sunday event.

Blessings to you this weekend. Happy #adulting!

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