#adulting

As a parent of two older teens, I’ve had fun with the current #adulting trend. A little self-deprecating humour goes a long way in helping myself #rightsize my opinions of myself as well as my perception of self-importance and irreplace-ibility. This morning, after a very long and full work week with 4 am mornings and 11 pm evenings and being “on-the-clock” almost the whole time, I really wanted to sleep in. However, having been out of the office and away from home for the majority of the week, with a significant event tomorrow requiring extensive preparation today along with a…

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It’s better when you doubt yourself!

One of my personal pet peeves are all of those meme’s that you see on social media that tell you to “look within yourself” or “only you can know what is best for you.” Things along those lies lines. Here is why I believe that you cannot look within yourself (aka your mind) to find the truth. Many years ago my dear grandmother passed away. At the time my son was 8 years old and he struggled in a really big way with his grief. He is, and was, a very physical child and emotion is a very physical emotion that…

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You Can’t Complete Me

I was in University, it was the year before my friend and I decided to start dating when the movie Jerry Maguire came out with this iconic line. I remember thinking, at the time, how I wanted to be able to say that phrase myself. It took many more years for me to learn how empty and destroying that phrase was to my marriage and myself. Creating a healthier approach took even longer. When I got married I really did think that my fiancée did complete me. He was one of the first persons to whom I could speak without…

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Process, Structure & Routine

I distinctly remember yelling “I HATE ROUTINES” at my father when I was a teenager. I was determined to be creative, free-spirited, and independent from rules and structures. Yet, as a child of two highly organized, productive and confident Type-A parents, I ran into: routines structure order process I was 8 when I was first introduced to the concept of reactive vs proactive. I was encouraged to read Steven Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and introduced to the concept of the 4 quadrants. But I lived in a world of Anne of Green Gables, The Narnia Chronicles, Sherlock Holmes…

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Do you really know who you are?

Do you really know who you are? Are you the best person to answer the question “Who am I?” Have you ever thought or said: “Well, they just don’t know who I am!” “Wow, that was a nice compliment. I’ve never thought of myself that way before.” “If you only knew what I was thinking right now…” “You’re right, I would never treat a stranger that way.” Let me flip the lens around. Have you ever watched a person walk away and thought: “You have no idea! You just have no idea, do you?” “I could really help them, if…

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